My meditation experience part I
What is meditation?
The focus or conscious action of breathing, relaxing, and actively ignoring thoughts that aren’t useful in your state of transcendence.¹
What does meditation do?
Meditation has many benefits, including helping in cure disease, regenerate cells, regenerate diseased organs, reduce stress, gain clarity, and in some cases even transcend time and space.. Your body is present in this world but your mind is somewhere else. EEG studies have been done or in other words, people’s brain activity has been tracked in meditative states and what these tests show is the activity during meditation is in a different active state versus just sleeping or resting. Your body is separate from your mind during meditation.² In this era with technology, they have many more advanced tests they can perform on people that meditate versus people who do not. What they all say is, meditation changes your brain chemistry in a way that creates a mind and body shift that give you complete autonomy on your mind and body functions.³
How do you meditate?
From my experience, trying to meditate with no knowledge of what you should do is a waste of time and it can cause more frustration for you. Like I mentioned before when you meditate your brain activity is on different energy level compared to when you’re just fully conscious body and mind. It’s the process in which we activate our brains and disconnect our bodies is what meditation is. Below I’ll give you a couple of steps to begin as a beginner which is what I was taught for my first real meditation experience.
Step 1 – Find a spot where you can relax undisturbed. Free from noise, smells, and interference from the outside world. Do not choose your bed as you associate sleep with your bed. Sit on the floor or in a chair in a relaxed position and take a few deep breaths to help relax your body and mind.
Step 2 – Relax your normal thought process. The breathing helps with this. (Your first few attempts, or even more, you will have thoughts creep in and try to control or take you out of your meditative state. Don’t worry, with practice it will get easier) that’s why they call it meditation practice.
Step 3 – Have an anchor word or use a guided meditations that brings you back to your relaxed state if your thoughts try to take over you.
I prefer guided myself but each person is different.
When should you meditate?
For me, as a mom, meditating in the morning is the best time to meditate. But the morning after you wake and evening before bed are the best times to meditate, which I’ll also discuss more in part II of this blog post. There are also walking and lying down meditation but I won’t be discussing those in either blog post. In the morning I do my routine, which is obvious, then drinking a full glass of water, (since I’m pregnant right now I may eat breakfast before meditating). I’ll sit on the couch and sit straight up (well as much as possible right now because, let’s be honest, my belly is huge and I’m middle heavy LOL). I’ll take a few deep breaths in and out and start my relaxing transcendence music. As I mentioned before, I’ve been using RMT by Brendon Burchard. You can find that YouTube video here! I’ll be diving into something slightly more advanced for the next post with Dr. Joe Dispenza called the open focus technique!
How do you stop thoughts you don’t want to come in?
When I first started meditating, I found this the hardest of them all and I still do. It can take some time to get this down, but it won’t be my excuse for not continuing my practice it will be my motivation! Have you heard the saying about women, we’re like a laptop with a million tabs open. That’s my mind. I’m thinking about a million things. Dinner, are my kids being good, will I ever go into labor, oh wait I forgot the laundry in the washer, oh crap I have to pee. Let’s be honest we all do this. Men too. Obviously different thoughts. But that’s why using an anchor or guided meditation is so helpful. It helps get back into focus to our relaxed meditative state. As I said, don’t beat yourself up if this is difficult. With practice, you will get it. I find how my mood is when I wake has a lot to do with whether or not I have more control over my thoughts and focus.
Meditation won’t work if you don’t believe it or if you have the same story going on in your head about your past, present, and future. When I first tried to meditate it was a daunting experience, and I didn’t try it again for many months. Why? My story was still running on autopilot which I discuss in a past blog post, you can read here. So when I worked through my past and future and sat down and created a plan is when I felt a release happen in my mind-body and spirit. That’s why I believe the meditation worked this time. I created a mental shift in my belief system. Real change will never occur if we don’t create a mental shift of ourselves.
Now that you have the process in which people meditate you can now begin your own meditation journey. This is just a beginners method. To get into more advanced techniques you can watch YouTube videos or stay tuned for blog post part II or get Dr. Joe’s book you are the Placebo or his guided meditation which you can purchase on his website here: Drjoedisoenza.com and also check out this blog of his about demystifying meditation. Those two items I used to help me go deeper into my meditation experience which I’ll discuss in part II of this blog.
Like I mentioned, if you don’t believe it will help or work then you’re right. If you believe, it will.
Do not stop any treatment you may be seeking and start meditating as a replacement. Talk to our doctor before ending any medication for safety reasons. The brain can have adverse reactions to quitting anything cold turkey.
How were my first 10 days, really?
It was hard like I mentioned. Those damn tabs lol! The first 3 days were great. I had more energy, clarity, and focus throughout my day even with my inability to completely focus my mind.. Then I hit day 4 and bam I’m sick. Well, more of just a stuffy nose throat thing. Still annoying either way. By having breathing issues it made meditating harder. But I didn’t give in and not do my challenge. I kept up every single day. I’m so glad I did. Old me would’ve reverted into her old ways and just laid on the couch and binged tv. New me decided that in order to truly see if this worked I need to stay on top of it. Within a week I was back to normal. I believe that with my meditation I kept up my productive day even though I could’ve easily chosen to lie down and wait until I was better or at 100%. I kept up my goals, played with my kids who were also sick and they never miss a beat, went outside for exercise, and never once allowed my body to dictate my mind.
The body-mind connection is an amazing thing. If you allow your body to dictate your days then they will end up not going how you want to until your mind and body are in sync.
Even though I was sick through half my meditation experience, this is something I will forever be grateful for that I started doing as part of my daily routine. On the days that I may wake up late and don’t get the chance to mediate due to unforeseen circumstances, I feel it in my mind and body. But I don’t beat myself up about it because that will definitely have a negative impact on your day and that defeats the purpose of doing any kind of self work.
If you’ve been looking to meditate but have been unsure it was for you or that it works; I’m telling you it will if you allow it. I believe everyone should meditate even kids.
Stay tuned for part II of my meditation experience where I follow Dr. Joe Dispenza’s open focus technique.
Until next time,
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Endnote: 1-3 massgeneral.org/bhi/assets/pdfs/publications/lazar_2000_neuroreport.pdf