How to not feel shame or judgment from your past mistakes.
My muddied past would make most people crawl under a rock and hide and live a mediocre life. They surely wouldn’t put their mistakes on blast for the world to read.
I’m not an attention seeker however, I need to help others even if it means I’m not being helped. I’ve learned how to help myself throughout my struggle because of the shame I felt; I didn’t have the courage to reach out and ask for help.
The knowledge I‘ve acquired throughout my journey has given me the ability to help others through addiction and shame.
How do we get over shame or judgment of our past mistakes?
You have nothing to be ashamed of. If you’re living in shame, then you can’t live in joy or happiness.
I started drugs and alcohol young and have plenty to be ashamed of. Living in that shame and judgment on a daily does nothing for my success or me moving forward as a recovering addict.
What I always say to myself or others about my journey is; it all happened for a reason; I wouldn’t ever change a thing because I wouldn’t be the person I am today and I wouldn’t have met the people I have in my life now. I’ll say it again; you have nothing to be ashamed of.
Walk your path with pride and release the shame because once you do you will begin your true journey to freedom of no shame and judgment. We are our own worst critics and we need to give ourselves breaks from the harsh judgments we cast on ourselves. In order to do this, we also have to stop judging others. By doing so it helps you stop judging yourself.
Look at your past as one big ass learning experience for the real world. A journey to your real self. If I can make it through something like drugs, alcoholism, self-pity, depression, near-death experiences 2 times and come out alive and optimistic than so can you!
Mistakes are just that, mistakes. You can only be judged, scolded, attacked or anything that may be perceived as negative if you allow it or you are already doing those things to yourself. In today’s society when mistakes happen people act as if it’s the end of the world, the end of your life. They will judge you because of those mistakes. People walk around in false realities because of it.
Not me. I live in transparency.
Why? I’m not defined by my past mistakes. I’m defined by my current choices. I live in the light (sometimes shrouded by the dark – a.k.a. negative energy) This doesn’t stop me from spreading love to others.
When you allow your mistakes to define you you’re choosing to say you’re not worthy enough to live in the present.
Honey, you are more than worthy. How do I know? I told myself that I wasn’t worthy of anything. Love, a family, happiness, or even addiction free. Suicide even crossed my mind.
If the girl who lived in self-pity for 20-plus years can overcome her shame than you can too.
The biggest factor in you stopping from living in shame is to stop judging yourself.
I want you to say out loud; I forgive myself. I am worthy of love specifically from myself. My mistakes don’t make me who I am, who rises from those mistakes is who will shine.
Look at yourself like a Phoenix rising from the ashes. You’re having a rebirth. The old you is dying and the new you is being born. Become the person you’ve always wanted to become but never felt worthy to be.
Say you forgive yourself every day multiple times a day especially when you’re feeling low or like you don’t deserve something. Seriously, go stand in the mirror and tell yourself that you’re worthy, I forgive myself for the choices I made. I am worthy, I am loved, and I deserve joy and happiness.
Once you can release your own judgment of yourself, you can really move forward.
Step 1: Forgive yourself now
Step 2: Look at yourself in the mirror at least once a day to tell yourself that you’re worthy, loved, and deserving of all your desires.
Step 3: Live one day at a time
Step 4: Stop judging yourself and others. This is the quickest way to start your healing process. Even if the person you need to not judge and forgive is someone who hurt you bad. The forgiveness and release of judgment isn’t for them. It’s for you.
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